When people ask me how I became a sexologist and psychotherapist, I often pause. Not because I don’t have an answer—but because my journey has been anything but conventional. My path has woven through the erotic arts, academia, and deep therapeutic practice, each step shaping my understanding of desire, intimacy, and human connection.
The Erotic Arts: A Different Kind of Education
Long before I entered the world of clinical practice, I immersed myself in the wisdom of the courtesans—the keepers of deep erotic knowledge, emotional intelligence, and the art of pleasure. Studying the practices of courtesans across different cultures taught me something profound: pleasure is an art, but it is also a skill. It is cultivated, refined, and deeply personal.
In this world, I learned the nuances of seduction—not just as an external performance, but as an internal journey of self-awareness and confidence. I learned how touch, conversation, and energy can create intimacy. I saw firsthand how people longed for not just physical pleasure, but to be truly seen, accepted, and liberated from shame.
Bridging Experience with Science
While my early experiences in the erotic world gave me a deep understanding of human desire, I wanted more—I wanted to understand the science behind it. So, I pursued a Master’s in Sexology and a concurrent Master’s in Psychotherapy, blending my lived experience with research-backed, trauma-informed, and evidence-based approaches.
Through my studies, I dived into neuroscience, psychology, and somatic therapies, discovering how our nervous systems, early experiences, and cultural conditioning shape the way we experience intimacy. I learned that desire is not just about attraction—it’s about safety, autonomy, and self-awareness. I realised that the mind-body connection is at the core of erotic fulfilment.
How My Work Creates Transformation
My approach is deeply rooted in helping clients move beyond shame, disconnection, and relational barriers to achieve confidence, pleasure, and fulfilling intimacy. The outcomes I help facilitate include:
- For Individuals: Reclaiming erotic identity, healing from past sexual shame or trauma, and cultivating a deeper connection to pleasure and self-expression.
- For Couples: Strengthening emotional and physical intimacy, improving communication around desires, and reigniting passion in long-term relationships.
- For Those Navigating Infertility & Loss: Offering support for individuals and couples facing reproductive challenges, grief, and identity shifts, helping them process emotions, maintain intimacy, and find a sense of self through difficult transitions.
My work is about transformation—helping people shift from a place of uncertainty or limitation to one of clarity, empowerment, and deep fulfilment.
A Journey of Liberation
From courtesan to clinician, my journey has been one of liberation—both for myself and for those I work with. I believe that sexual empowerment is about more than just technique or knowledge—it’s about permission. Permission to explore, to feel, to rewrite your own erotic story.
If there’s one thing my journey has taught me, it’s this: pleasure is your birthright, and healing begins when you claim it.
Tereasa Trevor 